Feeling vs. Love: Can You Spot the Real Difference?

Difference Between Feeling and Love

I remember a conversation I had a few years ago that left me thinking deeply about the difference between feeling and love. It was one of those late-night talks you have with someone who truly gets you. At the time,

 I was going through a rough patch, and my best friend, , decided to stay up with me to sort through the whirlwind in my mind. Her words still echo in my heart, and I hope sharing my story helps someone out there.

Growing up in a small town in Texas, relationships always seemed simple. You care for someone, you love them, and that's all there is to it, right? But as I moved to Chicago for college and later settled in California for work, life taught me that emotions are far more complex. They aren’t just black and white.

I met Liam in a coffee shop on a rainy afternoon. He walked in with a warm smile that lit up the entire room. Over time, we became close. I found myself drawn to him—his laughter, his kindness, the way he listened as if the world stopped when you spoke. Was this love? It felt like it, but I wasn’t sure. And that’s where I learned the lesson I’m sharing today.

Feelings Are Temporary:Feelings are fleeting. They’re those butterflies in your stomach when someone texts you back, the spark when your hands accidentally touch, or the excitement of discovering shared interests. They’re beautiful and powerful, but they come and go. When Liam moved back to New York for his job, I realized how quickly feelings can fade when the distance grows.

• Love Is Steady:

Love, on the other hand, is steady. Love isn’t just about the highs; it’s about the everyday moments. It’s being there when things are messy, when life isn’t a picture-perfect Instagram post. I learned this through my parents. Even after 30 years, they still hold hands during walks and argue over the silliest things, but they’re always there for each other. That’s love—a commitment, a choice, and a bond that doesn’t depend on fleeting emotions.

• Admiration vs. True Love: 

Looking back, I think my connection with Liam was a mix of feelings and admiration. It wasn’t love in its truest form, but it taught me to appreciate the difference. Love requires effort, patience, and, most importantly, a willingness to grow with someone through every season of life. Feelings may get you started, but love is what keeps you going.

• The Test of Time: 

For anyone reading this, wondering whether what you’re feeling is love or just a passing emotion, my advice is simple: look for consistency. Are they there when it’s inconvenient? Do they make you feel seen and valued, not just in the good times but also when things are hard? If the answer is yes, you may have found something deeper than just feelings.

The journey of understanding emotions is a deeply personal one, and it’s okay to take your time.

 Share your thoughts, write them down, or talk to someone who’s been there. Sometimes, it’s in those quiet reflections that you discover the difference between feeling and love.